GLAMOUR

Hey everyone,

Thank you for picking up the first magazine I’ve ever edited. I’m a big believer that life is all about timing, because when GLAMOUR’s regular editor, Jo, suggested guest editing to me, I was in England doing signings for the release of my first book, Burnt Toast, while simultaneously battling a just-discovered intestinal parasite that had been making me unhealthy for nearly a year. The combination of experiencing a new career as a writer and ridding my body of this strange invader led me to instantly feel passionate about editing an issue that dealt with the ideas of cleaning out. But not just your body. . . everything.

Finding times in my life where I’ve had to weed through what is still working, and what is not, is emotional. It’s hard to clean out — be it your mind, your car or even your pantry — but it always leads to a clearer path. And it’s on that clearer path that the happy surprises manifest themselves.

Taking charge of your life isn’t easy. Not long ago, I was going through my divorce, thinking, ‘Now I’m almost 40, the ‘hot’ years of my career are arguably behind me, all the money I’ve made I’m splitting with my ex and I can’t imagine ever finding love again,’ — a low point for me. But you do have a choice; to put yourself in a position where good things can happen.

I’m a great believer in the power of women, and I wanted to bring this issue the spirit of friendship and communication and humour I share with my best friends (whom you’ll meet on page 101), because they helped get me through the roughest times. I worked to create features that honestly and openly share experiences I think we can all find comforting. I often wake up at 6am and think, ‘How am I going to make it through this day?!’ There can be so many stresses in life, that even before I’ve thrown off the covers, I feel overwhelmed. I know from my friends that I’m not the only one who feels this way, and hopefully there is some comfort in thinking, ‘Thank God, I’m not alone.’

Well, you’re not alone. We women, mums, wives, the lot of us, are all in this together. I hope that this issue inspires you to make the most of the right here and now. Lean on your girlfriends on a trying day, clear out a space around you, take responsibility and change something in your life for the better, laugh, give yourself a break, simplify and choose happiness.

With lots of love,

Teri Hatcher, Guest Editor

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In a GLAMOUR exclusive, Hatcher reveals what it’s really like being on the end of an unwelcome lens. Armed with her GLAM-cam, we sent her to pap the paparazzi!

Any girl who’s ready to stand up and tell the world she’s a has-been, like I have, is a girl who’s going to give it to you 100 per cent straight!

I want you to know this now — a sort of disclaimer really — that there are loads of celebrities who really do court the media. They put themselves right in the thick of it, so they deserve every bit of tabloid hassle that comes their way. But, for most of us, we don’t ask for it, we don’t want it and we tend to be hurt by the massive inaccuracies in it. But I understand the way it works — if you’re a celebrity, you’re going to be photographed — even if that involves following me day and night, or when I’m with my daughter. They capture me doing the most mundane things, like filling my car with gas, jogging, dropping off dry-cleaning or running out to a grocery store to buy the eggs I forgot for breakfast. More often, they follow me during really private moments, like taking my daughter to school, watching her at horse shows, an exchange between divorced parents (as if that isn’t hard enough). And, God forbid, the crown jewel in the paparazzi’s wishlist, a shot of me dating!

To give you an idea, this is what it’s like leaving my house on an average day. I drive down my steep driveway and look both ways. There are usually paparazzi cars waiting. As I pull out and look in my mirror, I start to count how many cars are following me. I turn right at the end of my street and speed up on the off-chance I’ll hit the light just right and they’ll get stuck behind the red, but it rarely works as they almost always drive straight through anyway.

I try to be as tolerant as possible because I have no legal choice. Let me repeat that. A celebrity has no legal choice to avoid the paparazzi. And so the paparazzi provoke celebrities, they run red lights, they speed dangerously to overtake us and it becomes really unsafe. I’m obviously concerned about my little girl in the back seat. How can I protect her? Mostly I pretend it’s OK; I don’t want her to know I’m upset. So when six photographers follow us for two miles as we’re walking the dogs, only 10ft from us, completely ruining our walk, I explain to her that it’s how they make their money. I say: “You know how Mummy has to go to work and make money? Well, everyone else does too — they’re not trying to hurt us, it’s OK.” While every motherly instinct in me wants to yell at them to go away. But it wouldn’t do any good — in fact they’d probably earn more money because it would make a better picture. So I keep my head down and hurry on.

Which is why I jumped at the chance to turn the tables on the paps and see how they like it! It wasn’t exactly torture for them. But it gave my daughter a sense of empowerment and it made me laugh to see them so surprised. So thanks, GLAMOUR, for giving me this opportunity!

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An evening with Teri

What do A-listers talk about with their girlfriends? The same things we do! And we know because Teri Hatcher invited GLAMOUR to eavesdrop on a girlie get-together.

THE CAST

Teri Hatcher

Jennifer Glassman Teri’s friend and senior vice president of Teri’s production company, ISBE Productions

Jill Weiser Best friend of ten years

Leslie Sachs Teri’s interior designer and friend of 20 years

Missy Halperin Senior vice president of talent relations and special projects for The Fox Broadcasting Company and old friend of Teri’s

Jo Elvin GLAMOUR’s editor

THE SETTING

Teri’s cosy sitting room at her property in LA. The log fire’s burning, the home-cooked spread’s laid out on the table. We’re good to go…

Teri: Can I just start off by saying how happy I am that you were all able to make it here tonight. You’re such great friends.

Jill: Ah, she always makes me feel so good about myself. I think, friend-wise, you always get back what you put in.

As with girlie dinners across the globe, first up is relationships…

Teri: American women tend to date more than one guy at a time. Although I’ve never been that sort of woman.

Jill: No, you’re much more of a one-on-one dater.

Teri: It takes me a long time to be intimate with someone. So, to then actually be doing that with more than one man at the same time….I couldn’t get my head round that.

Jennifer: I don’t think that I could separate sex and emotions.

Jill: I think most women can’t — unless they get into the mindset of a guy.

Teri: Take us, for example. Some of us are married, some dating — oh wait, that’s just me! How often do you married gals have sex? I always hoped to have the kind of relationship where you’d want to have it every day.

Jill: I don’t even shower every day, let alone have sex!

Teri: Well, I think there’s something to be said for the art of sex in a marriage. It won’t just keep happening unless you make time for it. Even as a single mum, if I were dating (wink, wink), I’d still have to ‘fit it in’. . . no pun intended!

Leslie: I’ve been with my husband for 12 years and two years ago I had a complete catharsis. I’d neglected my marriage, I’d put all my energy into my work and I had no idea we were in trouble — but we really were. I now realise the importance of intimacy in a marriage. A man needs to feel attractive and wanted. So I’ve really changed. I mean, how often do you get up in the morning and not even kiss each other hello? It’s terrible.

After much encouragement, the group convince Teri to talk about her new boyfriend…

Teri: It’s been a tough year. I’m lucky to have my friends to turn to in times of panic — romantic panic, career panic, child panic, whatever…they’ve been there for me.

Jennifer: Sometimes we just have to remind Teri to enjoy herself!

Teri: Well, I was staying overnight at a hotel for Emerson’s birthday with five of her friends and five of mine (their mums). Anyway, I had a date set up for a week and a half away, but he called and said, “You know what? I really think that seems like too far; what are you doing Monday?”

Missy: And it was hilarious — it was like we were all back in fifth grade. Should she call him back straight away? Should she wait a while?

Jo: Don’t you think it’s funny how women never seem to grow out of that?

Missy: I don’t think men grow out of it either.

Jennifer: I think that men freak out in their own way.

Teri: One good thing about life experience is that you can get to the point where you don’t play games. Really, a relationship is only going to work if you both want the same thing. You can’t make someone want what you want. You have to find the right person at the right time.

Jo: And I have friends in their forties who are dating and there’s definitely an element of them not wanting to waste time — but you don’t want to freak the guy out…

Teri: There is an element of that — but I think you have to be aware of the pressure it puts on a potential relationship. Someone told me, “Teri, you just have to start dating.” Because I’d go on a date once every ten months, then that date is just way too significant. So you just have to go out all the time and then it’s less of a big deal. It’s great to have great friends I can call on for advice.

The conversation moves to looks and appearance – and GLAMOUR can reveal that even gorgeous A-listers have moments of insecurity…

Teri: I think there’s a huge pressure on women to be sexy and look hot all the time, but perhaps the great thing about ageing is that I’m gradually realising that the sexiest thing is when you’re in your own skin.

Jennifer: But that’s so hard to do — especially for women.

Jill: There’s so much ridiculous surgery out there. Did you know they can operate on your vagina? I know this woman who had it done and the doctor said, “I’ll make you 15 again”, but he made her, like five, and sewed it up so tight that sex was excruciating…

Teri: That is so nauseating!

Missy: Would you ever have surgery?

Jill: I’m a complete consultation freak — I could look into it! I could tell you about any plastic surgeon in LA because I’ve been to them all to ask my neurotic questions. If my husband knew the thousands I’ve spent asking doctors questions, he would be horrified. I’ve been told I need a face-lift, my ears pinned back, everything sucked out of my body…

Teri: I don’t use Botox or Restylane and I’ve never had any surgery, no matter what you’ve read. But I had a conversation with a male friend in the fashion industry and he asked, “Why is make-up any different to getting Botox? What’s wrong with making yourself prettier? If you don’t do that then why do anything to yourself?” I said I didn’t think it was a fair comparison; make-up’s removable, it’s not permanent. But changing the natural, chemical state of who you are… I’m not sure. I honestly feel like I don’t know the answer. Should we be doing it?

Jill: Absolutely — because we can. I look in the mirror and I feel like I’m melting. So the thought of not being able to age so much is amazing.

Missy: But I’d be worried about becoming one of those women who doesn’t know when to stop…

Jill: One of our friend’s grandmother is 97 and she just had Botox and Restylane! So when do you stop?

Teri: And that’s why I feel like, do women need to have a message of self-acceptance? I feel like I have a responsibility.

Jo: I think women would applaud you for standing up for ageing gracefully, but then you’re attractive…

Teri: But you could pull up a thousand references on the internet saying that I’m not. Seriously, that’s one down side to fame — on any one day you can find loads of hideously mean things said about you online. Jennifer keeps threatening to put those computer child locks on my computer so I can’t torture myself. It hurts, you know?

Jo: But your job is so dependent on appearance — how do you know you won’t change your mind in ten years’ time?

Teri: I don’t! That’s why I have a production company — why I’m developing television programmes and movies to produce, not star in. I’m already thinking about what’s going to happen — I’m not even giving myself ten years; I’m saying two years.

Jill: I don’t even work and I want to get my face fixed! It’s hard in LA — everyone’s so young and beautiful.

Teri: But over the years I’ve struggled so much with liking myself that the appearance of a few more lines doesn’t really worry me so much.

Finally, talk turns to the work/life balance. Think you’re the only one who struggles to juggle everything life throws at you? Think again!

Teri: It’s so important for women to make time for themselves and to be more positive. There’s so much pressure. I’ll work a 14-hour day, four days in a row, and feel like I’ve been run over. But I don’t call it tired, I call it: “Nothing I do is right, and I’m no good at my job and I’m horrible and no one will ever love me.”

Leslie: Yesterday, Teri left the DH set and the two of us went for a hike. We took some time out and it felt so great.

Teri: Another goal I set myself was to stop emailing. I’m glad I stopped.

Jennifer: How is that possible?

Teri: I got to the point when I’d never use the phone; all I’d do is email back on my BlackBerry. And if I hadn’t called Leslie, reached out when I was sad. . . we wouldn’t have gone hiking and I wouldn’t have felt better.

Missy: And with a BlackBerry you feel like you have to answer straightaway and you end up being on it when you’re with your kids.

Teri: This is a serial problem for mums. We’re trying to be everything all the time. The best mum, the best worker, the best wife, or the best dater. And it’s too much. So maybe it’s about learning to be a great worker when you’re actually at work, and an OK worker when you’re at home; and a great mum when you’re at home and an OK mum when you’re at work. It’s really hard.

Jo: I find the constant compromise is the most stressful thing. Feeling that you’re never doing anything particularly well.

Missy: It’s feeling like you need to keep all the balls in the air. But there’s nothing like going to bed at night and feeling like I’ve been everything to everybody that day.

Leslie: But do you find time for you?

Missy: Yes — it’s called ‘Missy time’ and it’s any time before 7am!

Jill: Right, we need to find more time for us. We need more of a balance.

Teri: I’ll toast to that!

It’s time for GLAMOUR to switch off the dictaphone…..well, there’s another bottle of bubbly on ice — who knows what might slip out!

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The Magnificent Seven

They’re some of the small screen’s hottest hunks, who put the wow factor in Wisteria Lane. And who better to interview the buff boys of Desperate Housewives than their own leading lady, Teri Hatcher?

Can I just start by saying that the men of Desperate Housewives are a great bunch of guys? When I asked them if they’d mind giving up some time to be interviewed for this issue of GLAMOUR, they were so enthusiastic. All seven of them — James Denton, 44, Doug Savant, 42, Kyle MacLachlan, 48, Dougray Scott, 41, Ricardo Chavira, 35, Shawn Pyfrom, 20, and Josh Henderson, 25 — arrive at the interview confident and casual. They seem at ease with themselves, at least more than I imagine the women of DH would. I guess it comes down to the fact that they’re not trying to be anything.

So, here we are at the Casa Vega, in the San Fernando Valley, for their first ever collective interview. Now, I’m guessing you’re not all that familiar with Casa Vega, so let me explain. It’s a dive Mexican joint, with greasy Mexican food and classic Margaritas — it’s a quencher of anyone’s junk food craving and you often have to wait an hour for your table to be ready.

If I’m honest, I had a moment of concern when I found out we were meeting at Casa Vega. I mean, it’s a week before the Golden Globes, when all of us Hollywood dolls are trying to shove ourselves into what we consider to be the new, hot fashion designer’s dress, but instead I’m going to be sitting down to lunch at Casa Vega. ‘No salad, hold the dressing’, no steamed chicken and brocolli, no fruit plate. Just oily tacos and enchiladas, with rice and refried beans, smothered in melted cheese. Wow, am I happy I have an excuse to eat this. Because frankly, I love it.

And I love these guys. I’ve worked with some of them a lot, some a little, and some hardly at all. Hard to believe I could be on the same show for nearly three years and not know all of their intimate details, but if your storyline doesn’t cross, you just don’t have the opportunity to get to know each other. So thanks, GLAMOUR, for giving me the excuse to share chips and salsa with seven of TV’s cutest men. What a way to spend an afternoon!

I start by asking them about the paparazzi and how their photographs ending up in tabloids or on the internet makes them feel. Their answers are surprising. “I feel like a pussy saying this,” says James, “but sometimes I think I care too much; in fact, it’s shocked me how much I care.”

He’s referring to the first season of DH, when he was told five days in advance that he’d be shooting a scene with his shirt off, mowing the lawn. He was supposed to look hunky. But James didn’t think he was hunky, he just had to be hunky on cue because that’s an actor’s job. “So, I stopped eating pizza and drinking beer and started cranking out the sit-ups.” But did it make a difference to him? ‘Well, the shots ended up on the internet alongside people’s comments Iike, ‘How dare he take his shirt off, he wasn’t in good enough shape,’ and I’m thinking, ‘I didn’t write the scene’ — and, yes, it hurts.” But then a strange thing happened — those negative, low-life busy bodies on the internet now think James has lost too much weight and is a manorexic!

“Well, you can’t please everyone,” Doug sighs. “They build you up to tear you down.” Ah-ha! So it’s not just us women that go through this. I have to admit, although I feel their pain, I’m a little relieved. Doug adds, “I feel like everyone perceives actors to have big egos but, let me tell you, when I have to strip down to a nude G-string for my love scenes with Felicity [Huffman], all I feel is humility!” Kyle seems to have the most matter-of-fact view: “I think if you’re famous, every time you walk out of the house you’re theirs.” I tell him that maybe he’d feel differently if he had children and he confesses that, as he and his wife are working on that, he’s looking forward to finding out! At this point our enormous meal arrives — geez, these guys can eat! — although as it’s only midday, no one’s going for the tequila shots. Suddenly, the idea of partying it up with seven handsome guys makes me wonder if they actually ever go out together? People ask me all the time why the women of DH don’t socialise outside work — they jump to the conclusion we all hate each other. But to my surprise and comfort, I find out that none of the men have gone to dinner or a football game together. Not one. I couldn’t believe it.

So sitting here surrounded by cute men who are all being incredibly open, I’m finding it hard to ask the probing questions GLAMOUR wants.

But then again, I realise that, as a woman, I could learn something from these guys. I mean, who better to collectively poll on the reasons as to why a guy doesn’t call back, or what’s attractive in a woman than the men of DH…

Teri: OK, guys, what turns you on in a woman?

Doug: A sense of humour.

Josh: When a woman is direct and expresses an interest; that’s a turn-on. And when a woman doesn’t just want a conversation about what I do!

That’s a huge turn-on.

James: Happiness. Somebody who’s happy.

Dougray: That’s so true. My fiancée actress Claire [Forlani] has beautiful looks and a beautiful personality, which go hand-in-hand. But her laugh is incredibly infectious and that’s really attractive.

James: My wife is always happy. And not in a silly way. She’s just a happy person. We argue and she swears like everybody else, but day in day out, she wakes up laughing.

Teri: If you’re dating someone, who should make the first move?

Shawn: Well, in my case, I’ve been with my girlfriend for three years and before that I was kind of a late bloomer when it came to dating. So she had to make the first move because I was completely clueless when it came to anything like that.

Josh: Don’t you think it’s all a matter of timing? You go on a date one day, you have a good time but want to be a gentleman and don’t want to have inappropriate expectations, so nothing happens. But if you’ve gone out on maybe two or three dates you think, ‘I’m going to make a move, because I need to know!’

Shawn: I don’t know if it’s fear of rejection but I’ve never gone up to a girl and said, “Hey, how’s it going?” That’s why I really like a girl who’s fun and spontaneous and says, “OK, let’s rock”, without being overly aggressive. You can show signs that you’re interested without being too bold.

Teri: What about ‘I love you’. Who should say it first?

Doug: Well, if you’re both in that place and you’re thinking, ‘This is beyond anything else I’ve ever experienced,’ I don’t think there’s any downside to a woman saying it first.

Teri :What element in a girl do you find sexy: ass, boobs, smile or eyes?

Doug: I remember being young, like Shawn and Josh’s age, and going, “I’m an ass guy.” But now, I just love women. I like it all.

James: What draws me to a woman is her eyes. Because that’s what you’ve got to look at.

Teri: Do you prefer a woman to wear make-up or no make-up?

Ricardo: I like natural.

Doug: Less is more.

Josh: You know how girls do a ‘no make-up, make-up’ look?

Shawn: But I don’t have any complaints about a girl with no make-up. No make-up is pretty sexy.

Josh: I’m really bad with stuff like when women get their hair done or cut. It’s hard for me to notice. I get into trouble a lot. [Laughs]

Teri: Do you notice if a woman puts on a few pounds?

Dougray: It’s not something I’m really bothered about. As long as she’s healthy, that’s the main thing. I’m not a weight fascist.

Ricardo: I notice if a woman has undergone a drastic change. I saw a friend over the holidays who had lost 50Ibs and I was like, ‘Wow, she looks amazing!’ — so I told her.

Shawn: Weight’s not that big a deal to me. It’s really not. If I had to pick body or face, I’d go for face.

Ricardo: I don’t like women who are too thin. There’s a saying in Spanish that I’ll translate for you: Meat is for the man, bone is for the dog.

Teri: What do women consistently get wrong about men?

Doug: What do they get right? [Laughs]

Josh: I think they worry too much about make-up.

James: You’re assuming that they put make-up on to please men, and they don’t.

Josh: Good point.

James: My wife Erin gets so much more dressed up, with far more make-up, if she’s having a night out with her girlfriends.

Shawn: That’s what my girlfriend tells me. Like when she puts on an outfit, she doesn’t do it for me, or any of the other guys. She does it for the girls in the room, because girls are pickier.

Ricardo: Generally speaking, men are just different to women. I was talking to Felicity the other day because she’s got this book coming out [A Practical Handbook For The Boyfriend] and I asked how many chapters are about feelings and she said 20. Then I asked how many are about sex because if it was written by a man it would all be about sex. Men and women are just wired differently!

Thanks, guys, I couldn’t have put it better myself! As I walk away from lunch, I feel really honoured that the men opened up to me so easily. Of course, if it hadn’t been recorded and we’d gotten to the tequila, who knows what would have come out. But I think I got a lot from a great cross section of ages and experience. I, for one, feel good knowing that these kinds of men are still out there.

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